Get Relaxed Before Getting Jiggy

Yes it’s true, the humble eye pillow can help you to relax and a relaxed state is the most desirable state for having sex. Have you ever tried to have sex whilst stressed out with your mind somewhere else? Not fun. In fact, in a stressed out state, you are more likely to just go through the motions of love making instead of enjoying the moment and letting your body feel pleasure. In a relaxed state, your body can receive stimulation more easily and you will be able to feel the pleasurable sensations at increased levels. No special techniques needed, no lessons in Tantra, just good old fashioned relaxation will doubled your pleasure and surprise your partner at your increased vigor and enthusiasm for sex. Not bad for 20 minutes of down time before getting it on! Let me tell you how.

Plan Some Extra Time

Most events that we find pleasurable in life require some preparation, whether it is organizing a party, planning a vacation or simply taking a picnic in the local park. Yet somehow, spending intimate time with our partner often becomes something that we ‘fit in’ during our busy lives. More often still, the sexual act between longtime partners can lose its sparkle as our minds try to follow the swirling thoughts that are going on inside our heads which are often not to do with the joy of having sex.

Think back to one of the last times that you made love. Were you able to stay in the moment and thoroughly enjoy the experience, or did your mind wander off and think about whether you paid the phone bill, sent an important email, put out the trash or stressing over you will get the promotion you are up for at work. If answered truthfully, many of us find that having sex becomes a routine of ‘going through the motions’ and our daily lives and stress just get in the way. An easy way to solve this is to prepare yourself before your next intimate moment to allow yourself time to wind down before you rev up.

Wind Down Before Sex

Plan out a short (20 minutes or so) relaxation routine that will slow your mind and give your body time to physically release any tension it has been holding. Remember that a person in a relaxed state (both body and mind) will find it easier to enjoy a prolonged and intense orgasm! Here are some tips:

• Brew yourself some herbal tea. There are plenty of varieties out there, but chamomile is one that we have tried and liked. You can try Celestial Seasonings Chamomile Tea
• Take a short bath. For added relaxation you can add some soothing bath salts.
• Once out of the bath, take a few moments to rub some beautifully scented body lotion into your skin trying some affirmations if you feel up to it. Ones we like are “My body is beautiful and sexy”, “I am desirable” or “My body and mind is ready to surrender to sexual desire”.
• Next, go and lie down on your bed, cover your eyes with our Relaxation Eye Pillow, take some deep refreshing breaths and repeat the above affirmations to yourself.

Lastly, call your lover to you and enjoy!